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A common misconception about survivors of Domestic Violence and organizations that work to support families affected, is that we view all men in the same light.

Which truly couldn’t be further from the truth.

Curious to what is the biggest way to create a safer community is?

To have strong, healthy, and above all 🅢🅔🅒🅤🅡🅔 men at all levels of an environment.

When abusers realize they are actually surrounded by people who protect women & kids at all costs, their behavior shifts and they just might realize they’ve gotten it wrong.

Safe & Healthy Dads are a vital role within our volunteer community and we look forward to providing more opportunities for you to get involved!

#shessafeherenow

A common misconception about survivors of Domestic Violence and organizations that work to support families affected, is that we view all men in the same light.

Which truly couldn’t be further from the truth.

Curious to what is the biggest way to create a safer community is?

To have strong, healthy, and above all 🅢🅔🅒🅤🅡🅔 men at all levels of an environment.

When abusers realize they are actually surrounded by people who protect women & kids at all costs, their behavior shifts and they just might realize they’ve gotten it wrong.

Safe & Healthy Dads are a vital role within our volunteer community and we look forward to providing more opportunities for you to get involved!

#shessafeherenow

While we have so, so, many emotions entering into this upcoming week; the Styled with Strength community is committed to continuing to say the hard truth. No matter what.

Domestic Violence is happening in every neighborhood within Fargo/Moorhead, and knows no income restriction, is likely happening to a woman at the height of her career, and to the person that always seems the happiest, or is at the hands of the guy “that seems so nice.”

Be the friend that listens, that holds sacred space when someone discloses something that sounds like a dysfunctional relationship or a “toxic” pairing at best, as it 💯 is likely far more.

Be the person that pauses, when the topic of the trial that comes up at the breakroom and choose to create a safe space for your sister who might be fearful she could be experiencing something similar.

You can help us change future endings.
You can help to be the friend that honors.
You can be the boss that asks more questions.

Sonja should have been safe here, and we are hopeful that you’ll join us in this mission to ensure anyone that may be experiencing similar, knows there’s a safe place to go.

Shop hours are 11am-6pm tomorrow or email us: info@styledwithstrength.org to set up a time to grab coffee.

There is a whole community of fierce warriors ready to come alongside you and there’s always a seat at our table.

While we have so, so, many emotions entering into this upcoming week; the Styled with Strength community is committed to continuing to say the hard truth. No matter what.

Domestic Violence is happening in every neighborhood within Fargo/Moorhead, and knows no income restriction, is likely happening to a woman at the height of her career, and to the person that always seems the happiest, or is at the hands of the guy “that seems so nice.”

Be the friend that listens, that holds sacred space when someone discloses something that sounds like a dysfunctional relationship or a “toxic” pairing at best, as it 💯 is likely far more.

Be the person that pauses, when the topic of the trial that comes up at the breakroom and choose to create a safe space for your sister who might be fearful she could be experiencing something similar.

You can help us change future endings.
You can help to be the friend that honors.
You can be the boss that asks more questions.

Sonja should have been safe here, and we are hopeful that you’ll join us in this mission to ensure anyone that may be experiencing similar, knows there’s a safe place to go.

Shop hours are 11am-6pm tomorrow or email us: info@styledwithstrength.org to set up a time to grab coffee.

There is a whole community of fierce warriors ready to come alongside you and there’s always a seat at our table.

trust us,
it’s about to look a whole lot different around here friends.🤍

trust us,
it’s about to look a whole lot different around here friends.🤍

While checking in to the Microsoft Campus for their annual Fall Give Event yesterday (while silently geeking out that the SWS Foundation scored an invite to begin with•••

Us: “I’m guessing we’re the only non-profit checking in with faux pampas grass aren’t we?” 👀👀

#shesstyledwithstrength #shessafehere

While checking in to the Microsoft Campus for their annual Fall Give Event yesterday (while silently geeking out that the SWS Foundation scored an invite to begin with•••

Us: “I’m guessing we’re the only non-profit checking in with faux pampas grass aren’t we?” 👀👀

#shesstyledwithstrength #shessafehere

we call it family dinner because ••• it is 🤍

thank you to our sweet friends @maven.collective.nd for hosting us this month!

we call it family dinner because ••• it is 🤍

thank you to our sweet friends @maven.collective.nd for hosting us this month!

October is shaping up to be pretty dreamy 🤍
stay tuned•••

October is shaping up to be pretty dreamy 🤍
stay tuned•••

decades long abuse, while his partner accompanied him to every red carpet.

🅢🅗🅔 should have been safe here.

decades long abuse, while his partner accompanied him to every red carpet.

🅢🅗🅔 should have been safe here.

family dinner is officially back in action!

so many full hearts and tummies in this little life we’re building together ♥️
#shessafehere

family dinner is officially back in action!

so many full hearts and tummies in this little life we’re building together ♥️
#shessafehere

100% biased but we are convinced it’s the best girl gang out there ♥️

#shessafehere

100% biased but we are convinced it’s the best girl gang out there ♥️

#shessafehere

It seems unfathomable that Jaelyn lost her life at only 14 due to Domestic Violence at the hands of a former boyfriend.

We have a problem Fargo, and we sure hope you’re ready to fight alongside us.

#SheShouldHaveBeenSafeHere #justiceforjaelyn

It seems unfathomable that Jaelyn lost her life at only 14 due to Domestic Violence at the hands of a former boyfriend.

We have a problem Fargo, and we sure hope you’re ready to fight alongside us.

#SheShouldHaveBeenSafeHere #justiceforjaelyn

This week:

We learned that Jenny is an absolute beast on the weed whacker ✅
we may have cut our landscape fabric with kids scissors that were found in Sara’s car ✅
Taylor had a crash course in driving a monster truck ✅

but the best part you ask us?

Seeing this incredible team of fierce, busy, and strong women come together on behalf one of our amazing SWS families? PURE MAGIC!

Thank you SO much to the Youth & Family Services Team at South-East Human Service Center for your time, love, and sheer lawn work bad-assery on Wednesday!

You are helping us to stand for safety while you continue to heal, grow, and enrich families throughout Cass County everyday!

#sheshouldhavebeensafehere #styledwithstrength

This week:

We learned that Jenny is an absolute beast on the weed whacker ✅
we may have cut our landscape fabric with kids scissors that were found in Sara’s car ✅
Taylor had a crash course in driving a monster truck ✅

but the best part you ask us?

Seeing this incredible team of fierce, busy, and strong women come together on behalf one of our amazing SWS families? PURE MAGIC!

Thank you SO much to the Youth & Family Services Team at South-East Human Service Center for your time, love, and sheer lawn work bad-assery on Wednesday!

You are helping us to stand for safety while you continue to heal, grow, and enrich families throughout Cass County everyday!

#sheshouldhavebeensafehere #styledwithstrength

Happy Father’s Day to the hard working, strong, and most of all- the safe Dad’s out there 🤍

You are helping to raise kind and courageous young boys who navigate and understand that true strength comes from genuine care, creating safe places, and protecting those in need.

-Styled with Strength

Happy Father’s Day to the hard working, strong, and most of all- the safe Dad’s out there 🤍

You are helping to raise kind and courageous young boys who navigate and understand that true strength comes from genuine care, creating safe places, and protecting those in need.

-Styled with Strength

sisterhood
is like a growing vine,
it persistently seeks out the light
and keeps us connected 🤍

sisterhood
is like a growing vine,
it persistently seeks out the light
and keeps us connected 🤍

These sweet s-e-e-s-t-e-r’s sure made us feel special our our May Family Dinner!

homemade daquiri’s, ice cream cone cupcakes, and so much food and love than we could ever imagine!!

Thank you to the Stibal Sister Squad for your heart for the mission of Styled with Strength!

These sweet s-e-e-s-t-e-r’s sure made us feel special our our May Family Dinner!

homemade daquiri’s, ice cream cone cupcakes, and so much food and love than we could ever imagine!!

Thank you to the Stibal Sister Squad for your heart for the mission of Styled with Strength!

We are so grateful to this incredible crew from @prairieheights who brought their families together tonight in service! They created beautiful new client welcome baskets, and fun summer baskets for current SWS families!!! 🅣🅗🅐🅝🅚 🅨🅞🅤!

#SheShouldBeSafeHere #SWSFamily

We are so grateful to this incredible crew from @prairieheights who brought their families together tonight in service! They created beautiful new client welcome baskets, and fun summer baskets for current SWS families!!! 🅣🅗🅐🅝🅚 🅨🅞🅤!

#SheShouldBeSafeHere #SWSFamily

In an environment that every reaction, explosion, or moment that he takes it too far…

Does not happen because of 🅐🅝🅨🅣🅗🅘🅝🅖 you did.

In an environment that every reaction, explosion, or moment that he takes it too far…

Does not happen because of 🅐🅝🅨🅣🅗🅘🅝🅖 you did.

I remember when I walked in the door that Christmas Eve, I had driven through a snowstorm trying to read my Mapquest (•••just dated myself) and also keep my Red Pontiac Sunfire on the road.

His mom was at the door, with an extra long squeeze and a whisper in my ear: “this is going to make him so much better, thank you for coming.”

That is something I already knew.

•I knew me driving all night and lying to my family about where I was going would make it better.
•I knew the fact that days before I had caught him messaging another girl but because I got to spend Christmas with his family would mean that “I won”
•I knew I would be on pins and needles while his family breathed easier and enjoyed the holiday.

Because I would carry the weight.

Every side-eye, trying to navigate his body language, “is that a real laugh or a fake one?” “Why does he keep texting?”

When an abusive person has a single target, the person’s presence does make the room a little bit lighter, but the room is also closing in on them.

So if your body is still wound tightly from enduring another holiday by saving the one person who’s hurting you,

We see you.
We love you.
We get it.
and we hope you know we are here when you’re ready for another path.

-team styled with strength

I remember when I walked in the door that Christmas Eve, I had driven through a snowstorm trying to read my Mapquest (•••just dated myself) and also keep my Red Pontiac Sunfire on the road.

His mom was at the door, with an extra long squeeze and a whisper in my ear: “this is going to make him so much better, thank you for coming.”

That is something I already knew.

•I knew me driving all night and lying to my family about where I was going would make it better.
•I knew the fact that days before I had caught him messaging another girl but because I got to spend Christmas with his family would mean that “I won”
•I knew I would be on pins and needles while his family breathed easier and enjoyed the holiday.

Because I would carry the weight.

Every side-eye, trying to navigate his body language, “is that a real laugh or a fake one?” “Why does he keep texting?”

When an abusive person has a single target, the person’s presence does make the room a little bit lighter, but the room is also closing in on them.

So if your body is still wound tightly from enduring another holiday by saving the one person who’s hurting you,

We see you.
We love you.
We get it.
and we hope you know we are here when you’re ready for another path.

-team styled with strength

When one thinks of domestic violence, the Google image search doesn’t do us much favors does it?

The darkened shadowed images with mascara running down her bruised face…The scary fist lurking in the corner..

Styled with Strength hopes to break the narrative of the public’s perception of what someone experiencing abuse looks like.

Because who you think it is, couldn’t be further from what she actually looks like:

•She could be the friend that just got promoted.
•The one who can eat terrible food and still be a size zero. (A constant physical state of stress is doing the work)
•The one who always appears to have it all together.
•The one who always remembers your birthday.
•The friend that’s the first to ask you how YOU are doing.
•The friend that seems to have the perfect kids.
•The friend with the carefully curated Instagram feed and the picture perfect holiday photos.

Perhaps could we say that Domestic Violence isn’t hiding in the shadows, it’s standing right in front of us, demonstrating courage, resiliency, and a grit that goes beyond measure.

She could be the perfect friend.
Let’s shift our focus and begin to see and stand with her too ♥️

When one thinks of domestic violence, the Google image search doesn’t do us much favors does it?

The darkened shadowed images with mascara running down her bruised face…The scary fist lurking in the corner..

Styled with Strength hopes to break the narrative of the public’s perception of what someone experiencing abuse looks like.

Because who you think it is, couldn’t be further from what she actually looks like:

•She could be the friend that just got promoted.
•The one who can eat terrible food and still be a size zero. (A constant physical state of stress is doing the work)
•The one who always appears to have it all together.
•The one who always remembers your birthday.
•The friend that’s the first to ask you how YOU are doing.
•The friend that seems to have the perfect kids.
•The friend with the carefully curated Instagram feed and the picture perfect holiday photos.

Perhaps could we say that Domestic Violence isn’t hiding in the shadows, it’s standing right in front of us, demonstrating courage, resiliency, and a grit that goes beyond measure.

She could be the perfect friend.
Let’s shift our focus and begin to see and stand with her too ♥️

We are extremely grateful for the unwavering support that local police departments have in response to domestic violence in the F/M area.

•They are often the first safe space that a survivor sees and the first line of accountability to our criminal justice system.

•Including Domestic Violence data specifically in their annual report clearly shows Fargo Police Department’s commitment to protecting survivors. (Thank you!!)

Yet one major question remains•••

Why are only 45% of all domestic violence cases in relation to aggravated and simple assault charges, actually convicted as such?

We firmly believe that when our local police departments determine and assess probable cause for domestic violence charges, as a state and county; we need to then carry the torch to prosecute them as such.

Let’s not re-victimize someone who was saved by our incredible police force by allowing abusers to be convicted as if they got in a bar fight with a stranger.

#theworkbegins

We are extremely grateful for the unwavering support that local police departments have in response to domestic violence in the F/M area.

•They are often the first safe space that a survivor sees and the first line of accountability to our criminal justice system.

•Including Domestic Violence data specifically in their annual report clearly shows Fargo Police Department’s commitment to protecting survivors. (Thank you!!)

Yet one major question remains•••

Why are only 45% of all domestic violence cases in relation to aggravated and simple assault charges, actually convicted as such?

We firmly believe that when our local police departments determine and assess probable cause for domestic violence charges, as a state and county; we need to then carry the torch to prosecute them as such.

Let’s not re-victimize someone who was saved by our incredible police force by allowing abusers to be convicted as if they got in a bar fight with a stranger.

#theworkbegins

Did someone say exciting things headed to Styled with Strength?!

Please welcome Brittany as our Volunteer and Special Events Coordinator! Brittany is a busy Mama to 3, recently graduated in Early Childhood Education and also is a full-time Childcare Center Director. We couldn’t be more excited for Brittany to bring her gifts of loving and helping others to discover their passions and create their unique corner of the SWS community!

Have you been looking to getting involved in serving the incredible women & kids who call SWS home? There is a place for you and we would love for you to join us!

🅦🅔🅛🅒🅞🅜🅔 🅑🅡🅘🅣🅣🅐🅝🅨!

Did someone say exciting things headed to Styled with Strength?!

Please welcome Brittany as our Volunteer and Special Events Coordinator! Brittany is a busy Mama to 3, recently graduated in Early Childhood Education and also is a full-time Childcare Center Director. We couldn’t be more excited for Brittany to bring her gifts of loving and helping others to discover their passions and create their unique corner of the SWS community!

Have you been looking to getting involved in serving the incredible women & kids who call SWS home? There is a place for you and we would love for you to join us!

🅦🅔🅛🅒🅞🅜🅔 🅑🅡🅘🅣🅣🅐🅝🅨!

whether it’s a whisper over a glass of wine in a crowded restaurant, or the boom of a microphone at center stage, living and standing in your truth as a survivor of abuse is so vital to the work of helping her feel strong enough to eventually accept hers ♥️

whether it’s a whisper over a glass of wine in a crowded restaurant, or the boom of a microphone at center stage, living and standing in your truth as a survivor of abuse is so vital to the work of helping her feel strong enough to eventually accept hers ♥️

On this day 🅕🅘🅥🅔 years ago, the very first Styled with Strength event took place!

A professional wardrobing shopping day at the YWCA Cass Clay emergency shelter. Women from across the country sent high end professional clothing and opened a door for a woman who may have entered with nothing leave confident, seen, and valued.

It sure seems wild to think about the small seed that eventually launched an incredible community of local businesses, organizations, and survivors all coming together for one purpose, united in the belief that every woman in the Fargo/Moorhead Community should feel safe in her own home.

On this day 🅕🅘🅥🅔 years ago, the very first Styled with Strength event took place!

A professional wardrobing shopping day at the YWCA Cass Clay emergency shelter. Women from across the country sent high end professional clothing and opened a door for a woman who may have entered with nothing leave confident, seen, and valued.

It sure seems wild to think about the small seed that eventually launched an incredible community of local businesses, organizations, and survivors all coming together for one purpose, united in the belief that every woman in the Fargo/Moorhead Community should feel safe in her own home.

“Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called the children of God.” Matthew 5:9

We are heartbroken to learn of the deaths of Burnsville, MN Police Officers: Paul Elmstrand and Matthew Ruge along with Burnsville Firefighter & Paramedic Adam Finseth as a result of a response to a Domestic Violence call in the early hours Sunday morning. First responders are continually the safe haven for a woman escaping violence, the cycle breakers, and those unafraid to step in on behalf of safety.

We mourn their loss and commit to continue our mission of raising awareness, advocating for stronger sentencing, better intervention programming for abusers, and a hell of a lot more resources for women to seek safety sooner.

Important Notes about this Terrible Loss:

•It happened in a single family home, in a middle class suburban neighborhood

•1 Woman and 7 Children ages 2-15 were inside the home at the time

•There was not a significant history of Domestic Violence service calls to the home previously

•The abuser died by suicide after taking the lives of heroes and forever altering the lives of his own family.

We are heartbroken, shocked, and praying for all who are hurting from this act of violence.

She should have been safe here.

But also,
They should have been safe here too.

“Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called the children of God.” Matthew 5:9

We are heartbroken to learn of the deaths of Burnsville, MN Police Officers: Paul Elmstrand and Matthew Ruge along with Burnsville Firefighter & Paramedic Adam Finseth as a result of a response to a Domestic Violence call in the early hours Sunday morning. First responders are continually the safe haven for a woman escaping violence, the cycle breakers, and those unafraid to step in on behalf of safety.

We mourn their loss and commit to continue our mission of raising awareness, advocating for stronger sentencing, better intervention programming for abusers, and a hell of a lot more resources for women to seek safety sooner.

Important Notes about this Terrible Loss:

•It happened in a single family home, in a middle class suburban neighborhood

•1 Woman and 7 Children ages 2-15 were inside the home at the time

•There was not a significant history of Domestic Violence service calls to the home previously

•The abuser died by suicide after taking the lives of heroes and forever altering the lives of his own family.

We are heartbroken, shocked, and praying for all who are hurting from this act of violence.

She should have been safe here.

But also,
They should have been safe here too.

You, yes…You!
A Friday evening reminder ♥️

You, yes…You!
A Friday evening reminder ♥️

[a long one, but please join us•••]

It is so important for the children (especially boys) in our SWS Family to see positive examples of healthy behaviors and meaningful care from men within the Fargo/Moorhead Community.

We would love to invite you to join us in our She’s Safe Here Today Project throughout the month of February.

Once a woman reaches safety for herself & her children there is often a large workload that still remains. That’s where we come in. Due to the family not being safe, they have relocated (and are thriving!) However, the home where the violence took place remains. We would love to honor & come alongside this survivor by handling the repairs, painting, and cleaning in order to have the home ready to sell by March 1.

Tasks Include:
•Wall Patching & Repair
•Re-Installing the Crown Molding
•Painting and Cleaning

This project is open to truly anyone with a skillset that can help (especially those that are handy for the repairs!)

If you’d like to serve alongside us with your family, your friends, your church, your work group or any group of people that may be able to stand with us in this gap, we would be honored. If you are not able to volunteer but would like to donate towards supplies, paint, trim for this project please send us a note!

This project seems scary and far out of our comfort zone and skill set, but we know that is precisely where we need to be.

Thank you for joining us in the unwavering belief that women and children should always feel safe right at home ♥️

#shessafeheretoday

[a long one, but please join us•••]

It is so important for the children (especially boys) in our SWS Family to see positive examples of healthy behaviors and meaningful care from men within the Fargo/Moorhead Community.

We would love to invite you to join us in our She’s Safe Here Today Project throughout the month of February.

Once a woman reaches safety for herself & her children there is often a large workload that still remains. That’s where we come in. Due to the family not being safe, they have relocated (and are thriving!) However, the home where the violence took place remains. We would love to honor & come alongside this survivor by handling the repairs, painting, and cleaning in order to have the home ready to sell by March 1.

Tasks Include:
•Wall Patching & Repair
•Re-Installing the Crown Molding
•Painting and Cleaning

This project is open to truly anyone with a skillset that can help (especially those that are handy for the repairs!)

If you’d like to serve alongside us with your family, your friends, your church, your work group or any group of people that may be able to stand with us in this gap, we would be honored. If you are not able to volunteer but would like to donate towards supplies, paint, trim for this project please send us a note!

This project seems scary and far out of our comfort zone and skill set, but we know that is precisely where we need to be.

Thank you for joining us in the unwavering belief that women and children should always feel safe right at home ♥️

#shessafeheretoday

But what do you mean it’s a shop?
••• and how could that make a difference for someone experiencing domestic violence?

Because it is just a shop.
A shop of cute things and fun books
{and quirky real people cards}
A shop where you can find a “Don’t be a Dick” Longsleeve and a devotional for anxiety in the same place.

A shop where women choose to support by shopping, knowing that it just might cover a need for the woman down the street that is safety planning to leave.

(In the nice neighborhood)
(In the safe neighborhood)

Just a shop she picks up fun stickers at but a few weeks later, she comes back and shares her story and begins to plan for safety.

Just a shop where women of power and influence in the community serve and care for the unseen in an honoring place.

This space continues to surprise me for doors that it opens and the hearts it connects.

So yes, it’s just a shop. #shessafehere

A shop that hopes to change just one woman’s life ♥️

But what do you mean it’s a shop?
••• and how could that make a difference for someone experiencing domestic violence?

Because it is just a shop.
A shop of cute things and fun books
{and quirky real people cards}
A shop where you can find a “Don’t be a Dick” Longsleeve and a devotional for anxiety in the same place.

A shop where women choose to support by shopping, knowing that it just might cover a need for the woman down the street that is safety planning to leave.

(In the nice neighborhood)
(In the safe neighborhood)

Just a shop she picks up fun stickers at but a few weeks later, she comes back and shares her story and begins to plan for safety.

Just a shop where women of power and influence in the community serve and care for the unseen in an honoring place.

This space continues to surprise me for doors that it opens and the hearts it connects.

So yes, it’s just a shop. #shessafehere

A shop that hopes to change just one woman’s life ♥️

Even after a woman has left her abuser, the control and manipulation can still continue within the parenting dynamic, and sometimes is still almost daily.

At Christmas this abuse of power can look like:
•Going above and beyond buying excessive gifts to be the “fun” parent while continuing to control and withhold family finances from the mother.

We are SO thankful for the incredible staff (and customers!) at Brewtus’ Brickhouse-West Fargo for stepping in and purchasing Christmas gifts for our SWS kids this year and for helping us restore honor and empowering mamas that new chapters may be scary, but the love and community remains ♥️

#shessafehere

Even after a woman has left her abuser, the control and manipulation can still continue within the parenting dynamic, and sometimes is still almost daily.

At Christmas this abuse of power can look like:
•Going above and beyond buying excessive gifts to be the “fun” parent while continuing to control and withhold family finances from the mother.

We are SO thankful for the incredible staff (and customers!) at Brewtus’ Brickhouse-West Fargo for stepping in and purchasing Christmas gifts for our SWS kids this year and for helping us restore honor and empowering mamas that new chapters may be scary, but the love and community remains ♥️

#shessafehere

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